Why Marriage Still Matters
The Power of Choosing One Person, Again and Again
Choosing to get married isn't just about romance, routine, or keeping up appearances. It’s a soul-level journey that shapes who we become. This piece explores why—even in our modern world—marriage remains one of the most powerful, transformative choices we can make.
Beyond A Tradition
Marriage is one of the most universal traditions across cultures and time. For many, it represents a rite of passage—a way to secure love, partnership, and purpose. But beneath the surface rituals and romantic ideals lies something deeper: a profound opportunity for growth, joy, and soul-level connection.
People often approach marriage with hope. Some are drawn to it by dreams of lifelong companionship, others by family values or societal norms. Yet even in modern times, when many choose to remain single or pursue other forms of partnership, the idea of marriage still holds weight in the human heart.
And it should—because when done well, marriage is one of the most transformative journeys two people can take together.
What Makes Marriage So Worth It
Let’s be honest: even the best marriages can be deeply challenging. Living with someone day in and day out strips away all pretense. No matter how long you've dated or how well you think you know your partner, marriage introduces new layers of intimacy—and tension. It’s not just about the big stuff like finances, kids, or long-term plans. Often it’s the small, absurd things that bring friction: how someone eats their food, the way they ignore certain details, or how quickly they walk away in an argument.
Marriage can frustrate you in ways you never imagined. But it can also teach you things you never thought you needed to learn.
It forces you to look at yourself with greater honesty. It softens your edges. It shows you the beauty of staying—of choosing to grow through love instead of pain.
Letting Go to Hold On
What many don’t realize is that the healthiest marriages aren't just about holding on—they're also about letting go. Letting go of control. Letting go of who you thought your partner would be. Letting go of the fantasy that love should always be easy.
That space of surrender allows something higher to guide the relationship. Call it intuition, wisdom, or simply maturity. When you stop micromanaging the outcome, you begin to listen more deeply—to yourself, to your partner, and to something greater than either of you.
Ironically, it’s in this space of letting go that real commitment begins to bloom.
You’re Not Alone in Your Struggles
So many people silently wonder, Why is this so hard? Are we broken? Is this normal?
Yes, it’s normal.
Even couples who seem to “have it all” face their own struggles behind closed doors. You’re not failing because you argue or feel confused. Marriage isn't meant to be a smooth ride—it’s a book you write together, one page at a time. Some chapters are tender and golden; others are filled with conflict, doubt, or silence. But all of it belongs in the story.
You came here to live that story. To experience what it means to be human, to love deeply, and to be shaped by both joy and disappointment. Even the painful moments are part of the design.
Stop Asking Others What to Do
One of the fastest ways to lose clarity in your marriage is to ask too many people for advice. Everyone speaks from their own lens—from their personal wounds, successes, and beliefs. But no one else lives your exact life. No one else feels the things you feel in your heart, in your home, in your bed at night.
Sometimes, the wisest thing you can do is turn off your phone, take a walk in nature, and breathe. Let the trees remind you of patience. Let the wind carry away your fear. It’s in that stillness that answers come.
Your Marriage Is Not an Accident
Whether you believe in fate, free will, or something in between, there’s something sacred about the person you chose to build a life with. There were often many reasons you were drawn together. That bond isn’t just physical or emotional. It’s soul-level. It’s part of your journey.
Are all marriages meant to last? Ideally, yes. But reality is more nuanced. Divorce is a path some take to find healing or freedom. Still, if you entered your marriage with love and sincerity, it’s worth remembering the promises you made—to be kind, to listen, to stay open even when it’s hard.
Sometimes just returning to those promises is enough to bring a relationship back to life.
Children Are Libraries of Possibility
Not all couples choose to have children, and that’s a valid path. But for many, children become a natural extension of the love between two people. They don’t just open a new chapter—they open an entire library.
Having a child invites you to see the world again through brand-new eyes. It reminds you of innocence, joy, curiosity. And often, it calls you to be your best self—not just for them, but for the kind of future you want to help create.
Love Is a Choice
A good marriage isn’t about doing what your spouse says, or even always doing what you want. It’s about weaving your stories together while still honoring your individuality. It's not about winning arguments—it’s about staying present, listening well, and choosing love again and again.
Love is a power, not just a feeling. It’s what fuels your health, your creativity, your ability to grow and give. A strong marriage radiates into every area of your life—your work, your community, your self-worth.
That’s why we still believe in marriage. Not because it’s perfect, but because when it’s rooted in love, it changes everything.
So if you’re married, or if you hope to be, know this: the joy you’re seeking isn’t out there somewhere. It’s already written into the pages of your story. You just have to be brave enough to read on.