The New Marriage

Love First, Panic Later

For thousands of years, marriage was a business deal. Now it’s a love story. And it’s falling apart. Is that freedom or just confusion in a prettier dress?

Love Isn’t That Old

Marrying for love is a new trend. Really new. Like 1800s-Europe-post-Enlightenment new.

Before that? Marriage was about class, cash, astrology, land, power, or making babies with someone your parents approved of. Love came after, or never.

Still Not for Everyone

Same-sex marriage is only legal in about a quarter of countries. Many cultures still push arranged marriages. Love-marriage? It’s not global; it’s luxury. 

New Script, New Problems

Old script: Get married → Have kids → Try to fall in love.

New script: Fall in love → Get married (maybe) → Kids (maybe) → Divorce (maybe) → Therapy (definitely).

We expect chemistry, compatibility, ambition, and emotional security—in one person. It’s beautiful. It’s also a lot.

Unmarry. Remarry. Repeat.

We’re in the age of serial monogamy. People don’t just fall in love once. They fall, outgrow, try again. Happiness is now a moving target, not a lifelong promise.

Commit to You First

The truth? You can’t commit to someone else if you’re not solid with yourself.

Build your values. Know your deal-breakers. Figure out who you are when no one’s watching. That’s your real foundation.

Marriage Is Gardening, Not Fireworks

Stop chasing fireworks. Start planting roots. Modern love takes work. It’s daily. It’s quiet. It’s about choosing someone again and again even when they annoy you.

I Do

Marriage today isn’t a contract. It’s a choice you make on purpose. Not because you’re supposed to. Because you want to—and you’re ready to grow it.

You don’t need the perfect person.

You need two people committed to showing up.

To each other.

To themselves.

And to the evolving story that real love actually is.